Fun Family Blog

With all the changes and the busy schedule I have come to realize that I really wasn’t in a good place.
I didn’t care about enough, if anything really. It took all I had to make sure my kids had clean clothes, were clean themselves and had good food to eat. Everything else could happen or couldn’t and it really didn’t phase me.

Things are different now…I can feel it. Getting out of bed isn’t so hard. Falling asleep comes sooner and easier. Bath time isn’t so dreaded and I actually enjoy the bubble mustaches and mohawks. The dirty clothes left on the bathroom floor doesn’t send smoke out my ears.

I still have my worries and my stresses. I still feel anxiety sneaking up on me but it’s easier to deal with.

I am yelling less and taking deep breaths more. I am starting to look in the mirror more often before heading out the door. Lunches are made with love, even the notes are slowly making their way back into the mix.

I am answering my phone and when I don’t I am calling people back. I want to go get coffee when invited. No more excuse of this or that.

Yes, I was riddled with some sort of depression. I had too much stress on my shoulders. Now that things are changing, I am not afraid of what the day will bring. I am thankful for the laughter of children, the dirty feet, the spilled milk and the unconditional love…..from friends and family.

Life is good, hard at times but good. I am blessed.

I have been asked by moms with children younger than mine….lets stop there…parents with kids younger than mine??? I am officially the old parent now. I have been asked a few times to recommend a parenting book………..
Finding a parenting books that fit never happened for me, so I can’t recommend any.
It depends on the child, depends on your personality and your beliefs. There is no right or wrong when it comes to trying to do your best with this parenting gig. It’s hard, no book is going to make it easier. It’s a struggle every day to get everything done and do it without having your head pop off. The things that aren’t in parenting books but should be….
Seeing your kid fail sucks but letting them learn from that failure and grow is so rewarding.
Alcohol will quickly become a close friend…unless you don’t drink then it’s ice cream.
Hugs from your 4th grader in front of his friends are the sweetest.
Toddlers have morning breathe too…watch for it.
You will sneak food, it’s a given…you’ll hide food too.
You’ll cry the first day of Kindergarten.
You will not get dressed on those hard days or brush your teeth…
You will under estimate the cost of raising children.
Homework will frustrate you and become a drag all over again.
You will throw linens away after a 2 AM puking.
You will spend many weekends shuttling kids here and there.
You’ll hang on to those nursing bras far too long just for the comfort factor.
No matter how well you plan, if you pick up that phone there will be a kid at your feet whining loudly.
Sweeping becomes a daily routine instead of weekly,mopping should too but you’ll manage to put that off far too long.
You will also say NEVER to only eat your words.

4 practices with 2 to go
1 drive thru
2 movie rentals
12 i miss daddy comments (mostly from G)
1 sit down lunch out (famous daves, not impressed)
4000000 when will daddy be home questions (again mostly from G)
8 cups of strong coffee
2 mornings of no coffee
2 boxes of girl scout cookies
2 sleep overs
1 Little Caesar run with bread sticks
1 grocery store trip
Not enough loads of laundry for the bathroom floor still resembles a hamper and i can’t find a clean towel
2 nights of troubled sleep
1 really hard morning full of i am so tired and i don’t want to go to school
1 night where breakfast was served for dinner
2-4 tantrums that ended quickly, thank you!!!

So far it’s been good. We miss him but he comes home tomorrow. Late tomorrow so really Friday for the kids. I can’t wait….i’m tired and not cut out for this single parenting gig.

And a few random photos from our week.

He has had shots he will remember for a long while. He needed 5 to be caught up. He received 2 and will go back next month and receive two more. The 5th he will never receive. I’m picky like that.
He weighs 36 pounds now, I am impressed. I think she said he was 48 inches tall. Still both in the 20% where he has been his whole life.
After many years of frustration and being told by every doctor that he will outgrow it we got resources for his texture issues. She was impressed with how far we had come on our own but agrees he needs therapy. So of course I walked out of there without the referral for the therapy. That is so a Mrs. Fun thing to do.
Because we knew he would be getting at least one shot we took him to McD’s after school. Somewhere we don’t ever go unless invited by friends. I was so shocked when Mr. Fun pulled in to McD’s. The things we do for our kids. T was VERY excited and actually ate 2.5 nuggets!!!